Please Help My Husband, Wife, Partner, Spouse, or Other Family Member to Stop Gambling
It doesn't matter whether you are the husband, wife, partner, spouse or other family member of a compulsive gambler. It's your goal to help your loved one beat their compulsive gambling addiction.
People all over the world have tried to stop their loved ones from their gambling addiction over and over with very little results. They have tried everything even threatening to walk out or even kick them out, if they did not stop. Usually these ultimatums caused their compulsive gambler to stop gambling for approximately two weeks. At this point in time the compulsive gamblers mind stands still until they gamble again. As each hour passes their subconscious finally takes over and they are gambling again. This time they become even more secretive and gamble even more money then usual. They believe this is going to be their last time gambling and they need that big win to pay off their debts. More and more money is lost and this situation causes their addiction to go into overload.
Family members now realize that there are resources out there to help their loved one. Some compulsive gamblers might enjoy Gamblers Anonymous and others might prefer a more private situation to recover from their gambling addiction. I believe it's up to the compulsive gambler's preferences which programs out there would be better.
I have also found that people were not ready to stop gambling because they were ashamed of the amount of money they lost. It's important for the family member to listen. You still have a right to speak your mind or to be you. Just understand that the compulsive gambler's self esteem is extremely low. If it's your goal to go forward and help the compulsive gambler, then you need to listen, find the appropriate stop gambling recovery program and take one day at a time
Mr. Howard Keith has an extensive background in dealing with compulsive gamblers, relatives and friends of gamblers and teenage gamblers. Mr. Keith believes there are many alternatives to aid in the recovery of a gambling addiction verses a twelve step program. A large percentage of his emails were from compulsive gamblers looking for an alternative to Gamblers Anonymous and twelve step programs. Gamblers Anonymous also helps a significant number of people each year but there is a large percentage that does not stay. These are the people Mr. Keith is hoping to reach.